The National Center for Lesbian Rights (NCLR) has a series of publications addressing what the post-DOMA world will mean to you. You can access everything on the NCLR website at http://www.nclrights.org/site/PageServer?pagename=DOMA_FAQ_2013

You will find information on issues like marriage, benefits for military families, immigration and FMLA. These pdf documents will give you a heads-up on recent developments.

Just returned from the 2013 Lavender Law in San Francisco. With all the changes occurring since the U.S. Supreme Court issued its decision in United States v. Windsor, there was a great deal to learn and discuss.

Here are some insights from the conference:

1. Marriage: Don't rush into a marriage. It is important to consider why you want to get married and what effect marriage will have on your life, assets, taxes and other issues. Discuss the financial ramifications with your attorney, financial advisor and accountant. Some couples that rushed into marriage or got married as a political statement have discovered that move was not in their best interests.

One major concern is you may find it is easy to get married and difficult to get unmarried. Most states require you to live in the state for a period of time before being able to get a divorce. Vermont, D.C., Minnesota, Delaware and California are states that do not have residency requirements for couples who married in those states but live in states where they cannot get divorced. Vermont has an additional requirement--the couple cannot have minor children of the marriage.

In any event, take your time before jumping into anything.