Lawsuits are pending in every state that does not recognize marriage equality for lesbian and gay couples. For now, the federal district courts have been unanimous in deciding that bans on marriage equality and recognizing out-of-state lesbian and gay marriages are unconstitutional. The battles move to the Federal Circuit Court system. 

The 6th Circuit Court of Appeals will hear appeals from every state in the Circuit: Ohio, Michigan, Kentucky and Tennessee. Until the appellate courts issue decisions in the marriage cases, the status quo remains in effect. This is neither unusual nor is it unfair. It is the way court cases progress through the judicial system. We need patience to see it through.

The United States Supreme Court will be the final stop for the question of whether individual states can refuse to permit lesbian and gay couples to marry and refuse to recognize marriages entered into in other states. I think the court will address the issue in the session beginning the first Monday in October 2015. That would mean a decision from SCOTUS by June 2016. 

While many see this as slow-moving, we have gone from no recognition and DOMA in 2004 to 20 marriage equality jurisdictions in 2014--with more on the way. The law usually does not move this quickly--neither does public opinion. But the American people, by nature, are fair-minded. They have come to see it makes no sense to continue the discrimination. It shows people are willing to change.

Kudos to the pioneers in the movement for marriage equality. People like Mary Bonauto with GLAD in Boston--considered by many to be the "Godmother" of marriage equality. It is important to maintain the momentum.

And, on a closing note, come to Cleveland this August (9-16, 2014) for the 2014 Gay Games. Volunteer or compete but come to play. The website is www.gg9cle.com or follow on Twitter @GG9Cleveland.

When Pennsylvania's Governor Corbett decided not to appeal the federal court decision declaring the state ban on marriage recognition, the Commonwealth became the 20th marriage equality jurisdiction in the U.S. Approximately 44% of the US population now lives in a marriage equality jurisdiction.

Earlier this week lesbian and gay couples in Montana and South Dakota filed challenges to their state bans on recognizing marriages between same-sex couples. That leaves North Dakota as the only state in which no legal challenge is pending.

Every federal district court that has heard a challenge has found the bans unconstitutional under the U.S. Constitution. Appeals are pending in most U.S. Circuit Courts. No one knows how the Circuits will rule on those appeals. Everyone expects the U.S. Supreme Court to accept at least one case in the 2015 or 2016 term. Until then, with the exception of the Pennsylvania decision, all the lower court decisions are on hold. 

Utah has been ordered to recognize the marriages that occurred before the Supreme Court issued a stay in that state's challenge case. The 10th Circuit in Denver, which will decide the appeals in the Oklahoma and Utah cases, is expected to be the first to issue a ruling on the matter.

Rulings in the other appeals may not be issued until 2015.

Still, the tide seems to have turned and marriage equality for lesbian and gay couples...and their children...is becoming a reality. 

Stay tuned; more to come.

Many lesbian and gay couples are taking advantage of the opportunity to get married. For couples living in non-recognition states it is important to consider where you'll get married as well as whether you should get married.

Not all same-sex marriages will last. When they don't the parties involved will need to get a divorce. Where the couple married and where they now live will determine how difficult getting a divorce will be. All states have residency requirements that a couple must meet before filing for a divorce or dissolution.

There are 18 jurisdictions that permit same-sex marriages. 

California, Vermont and DC allow non-resident same-sex couples that married in those jurisdictions to obtain a divorce if they live in a state that does not recognize their marriage. Illinois law states that same-sex couples marrying in the state consent to the state's jurisdiction for matters concerning the marriage, including dissolution, even if neither is a resident.

The other marriage equality jurisdictions have residency requirements that must be met in order to end a marriage. 

If you were married in New York and live in Ohio, you cannot get a divorce in New York unless you or your spouse becomes a resident.

Some Ohio Domestic Relations judges are granting dissolutions and uncontested divorces. However, since Ohio does not recognize same-sex marriages, and no one has appealed any of these divorces, the state Supreme Court has not ruled on whether the divorce courts have the right to grant a divorce.

It is important to consider what happens if the marriage does not work out. Talk with a lawyer before taking the plunge. That may save you time, trouble and money later on.

Most same-sex couples that marry in one of the 18 marriage equality jurisdictions believe their marriage is valid. That may not be the case. 

New Hampshire and Illinois, for example, have "reverse evasion" statutes. These laws prevent non-residents from getting married if their home state would not recognize the marriage. They are not designed to specifically affect same-sex couples. These are laws that have been on the books for years.

The Illinois statute states:         (750 ILCS 5/217) (from Ch. 40, par. 217)

Sec. 217. Marriage by Non-residents - When Void.) No marriage shall be contracted in this state by a party residing and intending to continue to reside in another state or jurisdiction if such marriage would be void if contracted in such other state or jurisdiction and every marriage celebrated in this state in violation of this provision shall be null and void.  (Source: P.A. 80-923.)

Same-sex couples living in a non-recognition jurisdiction cannot enter into marriage in their home state. Since the marriage would be void in their home state, Illinois law prohibits the couple from marrying in that state. 

The New Hampshire legislature is considering legislation that will repeal their reverse evasion statute but there is no similar action pending in Illinois. 

There have been recent news reports from Illinois that many of the licenses being issued in the state are for lesbian and gay couples from Ohio and Indiana. It is important to find out how these statutes affect the validity of the marriage. If the marriage is not valid where celebrated, the federal government will not recognize it. 

It may be necessary for the couple to marry in another marriage equality jurisdiction. In time, these statutes will not be as important because same-sex marriages will be recognized throughout the country.

Judge Timothy Black has issued a stay of the decision he issued on Monday, April 14, 2014. The case, Henry, et.al v. Himes, deals with birth certificates and recognition of out-of-state same-sex marriages. The judge did not put a hold on the decision as it affects the lesbian couples who filed the case. Those couples are expecting the birth of children in the next few months. For them, Judge Black's decision means Ohio must place the names of both women on their child's birth certificate. 

Gov. Kasich has ordered the Ohio Dept. of Health to not put the names of same-sex parents on birth certificates. This is a change in policy and was done without notice to anyone. Judge Black's decision countermands that policy. 

This is a very good decision for children. Birth certificates are an essential part of everyone's life.

The Judge's decision puts everything on hold for other Ohio married same-sex couples until the 6th Circuit Court of Appeals rules on Ohio's appeal. The 6th Circuit is also considering other appeals on the issue of same-sex marriage and LGBT rights. Ohio has two appeals pending, the first involves Judge Black's decision last summer requiring the state to recognize same-sex marriages on death certificates. Other appeals are pending from Michigan, Kentucky and Tennessee. That means every state in the circuit is appealing a same-sex marriage related decision from a trial court.

In addition to the 6th Circuit, appeals on same-sex marriage recognition are pending in the 4th, 5th, 9th and 10th Circuits. Appeals are expected in the 3rd and 11th Circuits within the next year. The only Circuits that will not see appeals are the 1st and 2nd Circuits because the marriage issue has been decided.

Stay tuned. It's an exciting time for LGBT rights in the United States.

The National Center for Lesbian Rights (NCLR) has a series of publications addressing what the post-DOMA world will mean to you. You can access everything on the NCLR website at http://www.nclrights.org/site/PageServer?pagename=DOMA_FAQ_2013

You will find information on issues like marriage, benefits for military families, immigration and FMLA. These pdf documents will give you a heads-up on recent developments.

Just returned from the 2013 Lavender Law in San Francisco. With all the changes occurring since the U.S. Supreme Court issued its decision in United States v. Windsor, there was a great deal to learn and discuss.

Here are some insights from the conference:

1. Marriage: Don't rush into a marriage. It is important to consider why you want to get married and what effect marriage will have on your life, assets, taxes and other issues. Discuss the financial ramifications with your attorney, financial advisor and accountant. Some couples that rushed into marriage or got married as a political statement have discovered that move was not in their best interests.

One major concern is you may find it is easy to get married and difficult to get unmarried. Most states require you to live in the state for a period of time before being able to get a divorce. Vermont, D.C., Minnesota, Delaware and California are states that do not have residency requirements for couples who married in those states but live in states where they cannot get divorced. Vermont has an additional requirement--the couple cannot have minor children of the marriage.

In any event, take your time before jumping into anything.

On June 28, 2013--two days after the U.S. Supreme Court issued its ruling in Windsor v. United States, the Office of Personnel Management (OPM) announced that spouses of married lesbian and gay federal employees were eligible for benefits. Who knew the feds could work that quickly.

That decision affects me directly because my spouse is employed by the U.S. Department of Labor. We hoped it would happen but never expected it so quickly. Betsy and I prepared the paperwork and submitted it over the weekend. Yesterday, Betsy received notice the change has taken place and will be effective June 30.

OPM decided that state of celebration controlled--it does not matter that we live in a nonrecognition state. I will receive the same benefits as every other spouse of a federal employee.

The Department of Homeland Security also issued an announcement that U.S. citizens can sponsor their foreign-born spouses for a family visa. This also applies to current green card holders.

The U.S. Department of Defense announced it is proceeding to provide all family benefits to lesbian and gay servicemembers and their families. As with OPM, DoD is looking at the state of celebration, not state of residence to determine eligibility.

One big fish still swimming around out there is the Internal Revenue Service. The IRS has issued no guidelines about how it will handle the situation. The only logical choice is "state of celebration". Anything else will create a tax nightmare for the IRS and affected taxpayers.

The Social Security Administration will be the outlier. The statute under which the SSA operates specifically states that "spouse" and "marriage" is defined by the state of residence. Congress will need to change the statute and it is unlikely that entity will take any action. The Republicans will fight any changes just because they can. Without congressional action the U.S. Supreme Court will need to get involved and that can take years. In the meantime, lesbian and gay married couples, living outside the equality zone, will find themselves without spousal survivor benefits.

It's been three weeks since the U.S. Supreme Court issued the decisions in Windsor v. United States & Hollingsworth v. Perry. Immediately following the decisions everyone seemed to post something about what the decisions mean for married lesbian and gay couples, the LGBT community as a whole and the future of marriage in the U.S.

I decided to wait a bit, digest the decisions and think about the Supreme Court's ruling before commenting.

Make no mistake, the decisions have made a significant difference in many lives. Every married same-sex couple in one of the 14 marriage equality jurisdictions will now be considered just plain ol' "married" for federal and state purposes.

California's Proposition 8 is not being enforced. Contrary to the legal claims of the Prop 8 proponents, the U.S. District Court decision ruled Prop 8 unconstitutional. When a federal court issues such a decision, the matter can be appealed. If it is not appealed the decision stands and is enforceable. The Perry decision held the Prop 8 proponents had no right to appeal the trial court decision. The Supreme Court vacated the 9th Circuit judgment and that puts the trial court decision back on top. Now the California Supreme Court is set to determine whether the trial court's decision applies across the state or only in the two counties from which the plaintiffs hail. I find it difficult to think the court will decide the latter. It would make for an untenable situation in California. The Prop 8 proponents need to give it up. You lost!

Windsor presents other issues. Nothing in the decision restricts its application only to those married lesbian and gay couples living in a marriage equality jurisdiction. Justice Kennedy could have restricted the opinion but did not. Therefore, a reasonable argument can be made that the federal government must recognize marriages throughout the country and look only to the state of celebration (where the marriage took place).

Unfortunately, it seems clear the decision does NOT apply to civil unions and domestic partnerships. Lesbian and gay couples in the seven states that recognize those continue to enjoy only state benefits. And, the remaining 29 states that ban marriage equality, either through statute, constitutional amendment or both, continue to have the authority to discriminate against their lesbian and gay citizens where state benefits are concerned.

The Ohio Department of Health is refusing to issue new birth certificates for children adopted by same-sex couples. This is a troubling development and has not been widely publicized. This means that lesbian and gay couples that adopt an Ohio born child will be unable to obtain an accurate birth certificate reflecting their parental status. The letter that DoH is sending out is included below. Apparently, Governor Kasich issued the order to DoH instructing them to refuse to issue an amended birth certificate. There is no legal justification for the Department's action. A lawsuit is expected that will challenge this decision.